DO YOU HEAR THAT? IT'S LIFE AND IT'S CALLING YOU BACK!

TIME TO GET WITH THE PROGRAM!

Helpful tips to help you stop enabling:

1. Stop feeling like the victim and feeling sorry for yourself. Get off the pity pot and change your way of thinking. If you are in a constant state of misery and it is leading you to feel more and more depressed each day, then take care of yourself and go seek professional help. YOU are important too. No one is going to get yourself out of the rut you are in but YOU. Your loved one’s abusing drugs or alcohol may have taken you down that road of feeling miserable, but remember…there is a way out. You need to make the choice of heading in the healthy direction OUT, or staying where you are now. 

2. STOP providing the cushioned life …let your loved one experience their own consequences for their behavior.
By stepping back and letting them face it alone, it doesn’t mean you have stopped loving them. You are loving them the most because it may be just what they need to experience to realize that they DO have a problem and need to get help.



3. Make time for YOU! At least once a day, do something special for YOU.

If you love to read, sew, listen to music, bake, walk/jog, dance….whatever…set your mind to doing it. If you haven’t laughed in a long time…you could start there. Find a funny movie and go see it.

Call a friend that just can make you laugh so hard and go have lunch together. If you are sitting around waiting for someone to make it all about you…you might just be waiting a LONG LONG time.


4. GET out of the house!

You might be working three jobs and find solace in coming home to relax, but getting away from the familiar addictive surroundings is one way to modify your lifestyle to promote a healthier well being. Surround yourself with people that are positive….where nothing negative is the topic of the day! Join a group! Go to a craft store if you are creative and sign up for a class or two. There are walking groups, book clubs, dining out clubs…they aren’t going to come to you either, so give it a try. 

ISOLATION...the only thing that is good for is letting life just pass you by each day! 

Start living again!


5. You are not alone you know. You can ask for help. There are people all over the world that know exactly how you are feeling. Some of them have found a way to cope and have their lives back. People are there to provide you with just the support you need. All you have to do is ask for help.




Al-anon groups can provide you with that help. You can also seek support from your clergy as well as family counseling that specializes in addiction.
You don’t have to choose to be alone.

Only YOU can change YOU!

YOU just have to find the courage.

Once you do, you are on your way to experiencing Serenity.



Life can be enjoyed again. It was meant to be!

Do this for YOU!